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Thankful

This beautiful video was making the rounds a few years ago. This is something I am unlikely to ever see in person and I feel lucky that I get to see it here and I am thankful for all the beauty in the world, the seen and the unseen. For those of you celebrating, I... read more

It Bears Repeating

There’s a reason we have to turn into broken records; our kids are always growing and so they need to learn some things over and over and over again.

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Parenting for Now

It can be a tricky balance to both grow kids for the future and be here with the present child in front of us at the exact same time.

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My thoughts on Lena Dunham

I’ve been asked about my thoughts on Lena Dunham and the passages in her book that detail her sexual behavior with her sister. At first I declined to post them here because I felt like there have already been so many people talking about it that I really had... read more

Adoption Academy this Monday

We adoptive parents tend to seek each other out for information and support and sometimes that’s appropriate but if we don’t widen our cultural view we run into the danger of assuming that our vantage point is the only one or the most right one.

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Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month and October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. On the 15th many families who are living with loss will light a candle at 7pm their time to create a “wave of light” in remembrance of their... read more

Why is therapy so expensive?

There’s no getting around the fact that therapy can be expensive. Sure, you may pay less than you would for a hair cut and color or just a little more than you would for a massage, but most people don’t get their hair cut as often as they’re likely... read more

Teens and Confidentiality in Counseling

Parental involvement is a key ingredient in kid client success in therapy. What this looks like will depend on your child and his/her treatment plan, your practical ability to be involved (are you a noncustodial parent? Is your child receiving services at school?) and... read more

Digging in the Dirt

Peter Gabriel’s song, Digging in the Dirt, from his album Us is based on his experiences in therapy. This is a live version of his song and I’m sharing it because the original video of the song, (which I’ll link to here) can freak out people who... read more

When you have nothing to say

Therapy is a lot like writing. Sometimes you come to the page with a plan and sometimes you don’t. Sometimes you have it all outlined and mapped out and sometimes you’re free writing whatever comes into your head no matter how messy and disorganized and ungrammatical it might be.

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When clients and therapists don’t connect

I don’t think that any therapist can be the right counselor for every client because we are all so very, very different. I think sometimes a client who doesn’t get very far from us may not be ready to go far but also I think sometimes they just aren’t going to be able to do that work with us.

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When kids are wrong

I think my son was four when he decided he had to be right about everything. Four is generally the time when kids find their inner sassy. (Some kids get there earlier; some kids are born full of sass.) Anyway, he was around four and suddenly he was always right and I... read more

Change anyway

Sometimes when you try to change your friends and family’s need for sameness will be so great that they will refuse to see that you have grown into something different.

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